“Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.” Virginia Satire
Families thrive in an atmosphere that is nurturing and structuring. All too often, however, these two pillars are not balanced. One may be valued more than the other, leaving a family over- or under-structured or nurtured in ways that are hurtful. Hurtful nurturing is designed to put a parent’s needs before those of a child. Or it focuses on the child’s dependency so much that it keeps him or her from reaching normal developmental stages.
Unbalanced families experience high levels of stress and disconnection. In fact, they may only know how to connect with each other through stress and tension, which are poor substitutes for connections based on love and closeness.
If it is hard to step outside of one’s self to see what is going on, imagine how hard it is to step outside of a family and observe just where the balance is off. Family therapists are outside of the family system and trained to observe the processes that occur within individuals and between them. They hear what is communicated between the arguments and see beyond the pointed fingers.
If your home does not feel warm (nurture) and safe (structure), your family can benefit from family therapy.
To schedule a family therapy session, call Meredith Castevens at (919) 929-1171.